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"Midlife is lived inside a cloud of chaos. These years are not only your most productive, they’re also your busiest."

Yes, it really was a "cloud of chaos" much of the time. When I look back on our 30s and 40s, I don't even know how we did what we did, it was an endless jumble of raising kids and keeping everything from spinning out of control.

But I'm happy to report, now that even my 50s are in the rear-view mirror (a surreal milestone, to be sure), if you can keep your life and your health from falling apart, what they say about it getting better in your 50s is generally true.

Also, our experience mirrored this: "your sense of capacity needs room to stretch. The idea of staying strictly within limits sounds wise. But it’s not always real. Midlife won’t let you live like that." We made plenty of plans in our late 20s and 30s, many of them held, but sometimes we had to make major adjustments. It's all good now.

Because people don't seem to realize how much they're accomplishing when they're in the thick of raising a family, I want to encourage everyone to embrace it, hang in there and not lose hope. Building for eternity is a worthy endeavor!

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