Discipline isn’t a dirty word—it’s a form of love.
God disciplines His children (Hebrews 12), and He commands the church to do the same. But in today’s world, discipline is either abused or abandoned. Love, we’re told, is soft. It’s endlessly affirming, always gentle, never confrontational. And discipline? That’s harsh. That’s what angry, authoritarian people do.
But that’s not the picture the Bible gives us. According to Scripture, discipline isn’t the opposite of love—it’s one of the clearest proofs of it. In fact, the refusal to discipline is often a sign of hatred, not compassion. Proverbs 13:24 doesn’t pull punches: “Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.” It’s a hard line, but not a cruel one. Love disciplines. Hate turns a blind eye. Love steps in and says, “Not that way—this way.” Hate stays quiet and watches the train go off the rails.
Part of the problem is that most people don’t understand the full scope of biblical discipline. They think of it only as punishment, as a final act when things fall apart. But in the Reformed and Presbyterian tradition, discipline is far more than correction—it’s also formation. It’s not just a courtroom for rebels. It’s a training ground for disciples. Discipline is how God forms His people, not just how He corrects them when they fall.
In biblical terms, there are two kinds of discipline: formative and corrective. Most people are familiar with the second, but the first is what makes the Christian life sustainable.
Formative discipline is proactive. It’s the ongoing teaching, encouragement, and correction that shapes the character of a believer. It’s what happens every Sunday when the Word is faithfully preached. It’s embedded in catechism, family worship, small groups, discipleship relationships, and the godly rebuke of a friend who knows you well. It’s the steady shaping of the soul.
As Paul puts it in 2 Timothy 3:16, “All Scripture is breathed out by God and profitable for teaching, for reproof, for correction, and for training in righteousness…” That’s formative discipline. It’s not punitive. It’s pastoral. It’s how the sheep learn the Shepherd’s voice.
Corrective discipline, on the other hand, is what happens when someone refuses to listen. It’s the church’s loving pursuit of someone caught in sin, especially public, unrepentant sin. This isn’t about shame or punishment—it’s about restoration. It follows the process Jesus laid out in Matthew 18: go to your brother privately, then with witnesses, and finally bring it to the church.
The goal is always the same: to call the sinner back. Galatians 6:1 says, “If anyone is caught in any transgression, you who are spiritual should restore him in a spirit of gentleness.” Corrective discipline isn’t about flexing authority—it’s about reclaiming the wanderer.
In fact, the Reformed tradition has always emphasized that church discipline—alongside the right preaching of the Word and the proper administration of the sacraments—is one of the three marks of a true church. Without discipline, the church becomes either a playground for sin or a hospice for apostasy. Unchecked sin spreads. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 5:6, “A little leaven leavens the whole lump.” That’s why church discipline exists—not just to protect the sinner, but to protect the whole body.
Corrective discipline serves three purposes: the restoration of the sinner, the purity of the church, and the glory of God. When someone is corrected and brought back in humility, God is honored and the church is strengthened. When discipline is neglected, sin festers, hypocrisy spreads, and God's name is dishonored among outsiders.
But discipline isn’t just a church issue. It’s a household issue. It’s a personal issue. Proverbs says, “Folly is bound up in the heart of a child, but the rod of discipline drives it far from him” (22:15). “A child left to himself brings shame to his mother” (29:15). And again, “Do not withhold discipline from a child… you will save his soul from Sheol” (23:13–14). That’s soul-level care. Discipline isn’t just about behavior—it’s about trajectory. About salvation. To neglect correction in the home is to train a child for destruction.
We see this warning clearly in the life of Eli the priest. God judged Eli not because he committed the sins of his sons, but because “he did not restrain them” (1 Samuel 3:13). And it cost him everything. The same pattern plays out today—in homes, churches, and entire cultures. When no one corrects, sin multiplies. And it always brings shame in the end.
But when love rolls up its sleeves and gets involved—when it corrects with patience, truth, and conviction—it bears fruit. Hebrews 12:11 says it plainly: “All discipline seems painful rather than pleasant at the moment, but later it yields the peaceful fruit of righteousness to those who have been trained by it.” That’s the long game. That’s the harvest that comes from a painful season of pruning.
And that’s why Jesus says what He does in Revelation 3:19: “Those whom I love, I reprove and discipline, so be zealous and repent.” That’s Jesus—the one full of grace and truth—telling us that real love reproves, corrects, and disciplines. That’s what His love looks like when it gets serious. He doesn’t coddle. He calls us out and calls us back.
Bottom line? Love that refuses to correct isn’t love at all. Real love speaks up. It risks the awkward moment. It’s willing to sting if it means healing. Discipline is what love looks like when it cares more about your soul than your comfort.
Discipline isn’t the enemy of grace. It’s one of its sharpest tools.
We have seen the lack of this in the contemporary Christian music industry and Christian media institutes. Perfect time to consider why it is so important! 🙏