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Tyler Hochstetler's avatar

Great piece, brother.

I am often filled with regrets about not having made better use of my life in my 20’s regarding my career and feeling like I’m scrambling to catch up in my 30’s. Reading this today helps remind me that, sure, maybe I didn’t have my career established before beginning to raise my family, but my kids are getting a front row seat to see me do that in real time.

What a great God we serve to make use of our shortcomings.

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Rick WD's avatar

Tyler, over the course of our life you'll notice that the nature of your career will change. Establishing a career takes time and often the lack of maturity in our twenties would not fully the appreciate opportunities that may have been presented to use or the wise counsel that other people may have given us. It's very common for men to change career paths for various reasons over their life time. I have personally changed career paths at least half a dozen times.

Be encouraged that the fact you are married now and are raising kids will add a layer of depth and maturity that you would have never had learned in your twenties. The godly responsibilities you carry out now in your home will be reflected in the manner in which you work at your job. You are correct, your children will see it and notice the difference along with your employer as well. Our Lord doesn't waist time he sovereignly use it for his glory which he is working in and through you now in your faithfulness. Put what is behind you and keep running the race forward.

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Sean Collins's avatar

Thanks for this post. The insight and encouragement is greatly appreciated.

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Origen Adamantius's avatar

28 - 3

You don't understand how you've made my whole month.

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Mike Landry's avatar

It is important to stay out of the World of Regrets. That takes discipline, especially when thinking about bad decisions of years ago. But it is important. No time in Regret World.

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Scott Kelly's avatar

I really needed this message today. Thank you for your part in writing it, brother.

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Amanda Preston-Paroski's avatar

I do not see the post for how women destroy their households from last week.

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David Carlascio's avatar

Thanks for sharing Michael!

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The Word Before Me's avatar

What strikes me is how quietly these things take root. Apathy, anger, and addiction don’t usually announce themselves; they erode a man’s household in inches, not miles. It’s sobering to realize that neglect and unchecked emotion can do the same damage as outright rebellion. Finishing well requires noticing the decay before it turns to collapse.

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Glenn Coleman's avatar

That is gold brother thanks for sharing this it is so helpful

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James Denard's avatar

Thank you. As one that also wrestles with the regret-nostalgia beast this is just what I needed to hear. Of all the mighty works God has done, what He has never done is turn back the clock and we can only trust His wisdom in that.

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Rick WD's avatar

Thank you for taking the time to share this article. I appreciate how you left on a redemptive positive note. Honestly, I really needed to hear this. I think what you covered would resonate with majority of men.

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