Wow, I love this. Everything about it. The points, the form of writing, the tone. I'm a mother of 7 (our 4 year old when to his forever home). The first couple paragraphs are the exact sentiment I’ve been trying to express to some friends and family members who are trying to grow their family as large as mine, but are struggling worse than I ever have as a mother. Ifeel guilty I've spent most my life proclaiming a big family is for one! But I'm beginning to feel as you had stated “Just because something is good doesn't mean it is without danger. Generally speaking, the potential for something to be bad is on par with its potential for good.”
This was really helpful! I agree with all these distinctions and points and have tried to structure our family keeping many of them in mind, but your way of organizing and wording all this is a helpful and sober reminder to me to not grow complacent in attending to each of these things and in remembering the huge responsibility I've taken on by having a large family (we have 7 children). God is faithful, but far be it from us to not love our wives and children well, or to be a bad witness to the watching world by not attending to our callings with discernment.
It always helps to have the extended familiy nearby. We don´t have that many children but both grandmothers are within hands reach and spend time with the children regularly. This really helps to free up some time to spend on other stuff that needs to get done.
Mother of 5 littles here, and I really agree with this post.
Even just a year ago, I might have cringed at this line of thinking, but having learned much about letting my husband lead our family rather than negotiating everything between the two of us, it makes a lot of sense for men to have frank conversations about the wisdom of intentionally growing their families.
Wow, I love this. Everything about it. The points, the form of writing, the tone. I'm a mother of 7 (our 4 year old when to his forever home). The first couple paragraphs are the exact sentiment I’ve been trying to express to some friends and family members who are trying to grow their family as large as mine, but are struggling worse than I ever have as a mother. Ifeel guilty I've spent most my life proclaiming a big family is for one! But I'm beginning to feel as you had stated “Just because something is good doesn't mean it is without danger. Generally speaking, the potential for something to be bad is on par with its potential for good.”
This was really helpful! I agree with all these distinctions and points and have tried to structure our family keeping many of them in mind, but your way of organizing and wording all this is a helpful and sober reminder to me to not grow complacent in attending to each of these things and in remembering the huge responsibility I've taken on by having a large family (we have 7 children). God is faithful, but far be it from us to not love our wives and children well, or to be a bad witness to the watching world by not attending to our callings with discernment.
It always helps to have the extended familiy nearby. We don´t have that many children but both grandmothers are within hands reach and spend time with the children regularly. This really helps to free up some time to spend on other stuff that needs to get done.
Mother of 5 littles here, and I really agree with this post.
Even just a year ago, I might have cringed at this line of thinking, but having learned much about letting my husband lead our family rather than negotiating everything between the two of us, it makes a lot of sense for men to have frank conversations about the wisdom of intentionally growing their families.