I think this is somewhat inevitable, as people wait longer and longer to pair up, or at least to commit. Proverbs 5:18 ("Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth.") certainly deserves more attention.
My wife and I started going together at 17, senior year of high school. There's no substitute for that sort of history. We've been through so many struggles together, it builds a sort of confidence and appreciation and stability that's invaluable.
There's been a lot written recently about young women getting conned by dating apps into thinking they can get a husband way out of their league, because they don't understand the difference between a guy sleeping with them, and a guy committing to them. But I think young men, through porn and other influences, are themselves too often chasing the sizzle, rather than the steak, having failed to discern the difference. Then they wonder why they're never satisfied.
This brings to mind a story told me long ago by a 30-something engineer, who said he had had two girlfriends, one of whom was quite fun, but the other was far more responsible. He had decided to marry the responsible one, and after several years he was quite happy and wanted to tell me that story, I think because he had finally concluded he made the right decision. Guys don't need to marry the flashiest girl, who will wow all their friends, but one who is well-suited to them, responsible, and will make a good mother.
"For a lot of men, porn has done serious damage. It’s rewired their expectations. Makes them think they deserve a certain type of woman—usually one they’d never talk to in real life."
From my view porn makes men scared of women. They idolize the sexuality, and are intimidated by it.
So many guys wanting a supermodel when if you look at them, and want the best for them, they should marry the plump cheerful women who makes the best casseroles at church.
Very timely!! Porn is one of the plagues of modern time. The book of Proverbs alone is so powerful, finding the right mate in life and staying on the difficult narrow path. Not easy but much preferable to empty and shallow.
I think this is somewhat inevitable, as people wait longer and longer to pair up, or at least to commit. Proverbs 5:18 ("Let your fountain be blessed, And rejoice in the wife of your youth.") certainly deserves more attention.
My wife and I started going together at 17, senior year of high school. There's no substitute for that sort of history. We've been through so many struggles together, it builds a sort of confidence and appreciation and stability that's invaluable.
There's been a lot written recently about young women getting conned by dating apps into thinking they can get a husband way out of their league, because they don't understand the difference between a guy sleeping with them, and a guy committing to them. But I think young men, through porn and other influences, are themselves too often chasing the sizzle, rather than the steak, having failed to discern the difference. Then they wonder why they're never satisfied.
This brings to mind a story told me long ago by a 30-something engineer, who said he had had two girlfriends, one of whom was quite fun, but the other was far more responsible. He had decided to marry the responsible one, and after several years he was quite happy and wanted to tell me that story, I think because he had finally concluded he made the right decision. Guys don't need to marry the flashiest girl, who will wow all their friends, but one who is well-suited to them, responsible, and will make a good mother.
"For a lot of men, porn has done serious damage. It’s rewired their expectations. Makes them think they deserve a certain type of woman—usually one they’d never talk to in real life."
From my view porn makes men scared of women. They idolize the sexuality, and are intimidated by it.
So many guys wanting a supermodel when if you look at them, and want the best for them, they should marry the plump cheerful women who makes the best casseroles at church.
Very timely!! Porn is one of the plagues of modern time. The book of Proverbs alone is so powerful, finding the right mate in life and staying on the difficult narrow path. Not easy but much preferable to empty and shallow.
I know the truth of this post by direct experience.