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I enjoyed this essay. I guess one point of minor disagreement I'd have is that I believe yes, pastors absolutely hold some accountability over the state of all the children at their parish.

Now surely I agree that husbands & father's have an incredibly difficult challenge & are one of the most (if not the most) important determining factors regarding the behavioral & spiritual outcome of their children, though I'd say external, environmental factors also play a significant part in their upbringing too. Factors such as:

- The legal/political system in which people live under. People tend to mimic behaviors & follow the herd like in the Asch conformity experiment

- Words/topics chosen in sermons by priests & pastoral counseling by church clergy. You're a very intelligent man pastor Michael, who is blessed to be able to dedicate your life to assisting in leading the Lord's flock but other men grinding in the workforce simply don't have either the time or sometimes even the IQ/mental processesing power to grasp exactly what you know & understand. They need direct and sound, hierarchical guidance in multiple areas & to be led, including, in family dynamic orientation

- Media consumed by your children, which you mentioned. This has a tremendous influence over our behavior & oftentimes shapes the trajectory over our life, quite significantly

- Mothers at home (or single mothers) & fellow husbands/wives in your church, and the public/private/homeschooled school curriculum & your children's school teachers which hold authority & power over their lives while you're out in the world providing for them. Particularly during their most developmental years, when their minds are more malleable & plastic to information

- And even your neighbors, your children's schoolmates (and their parents via their tolerance of certain behaviors and intolerance of others etc)

Human beings simply don't exist as fully independent agents contained within some hermetically sealed container, entirely within our power & control. Outside, external factors often influence our behavior and all those around us to an immense degree.

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