It is so important to have teaching like this for women, thank you! I never wanted to nag or strong-arm my way into "healthier" marriage rhythms and communication, but it took me a long time to find something that was directed towards me as a wife. I found a lot of help from Laura Doyle's books, and your article is a lovely addition to what I've learned. Women can be a powerful force for good in their marriages!
ETA: I wrote a piece on my experience healing my marriage as a wife here
Laura Doyle is not a Christian so you so have to sift through her ideas, but so many of her basic principles are solid and have helped my marriage tremendously. I started with her book The Surrendered Wife.
I felt like this was written specifically for me, in this moment. Thank you so much. Has the longer version been posted yet? I just skimmed through your recent posts and didn't think I saw it
This post really hit something in me and I’ve been crying for 15 minutes just reading through this. I feel like I just really needed this loving correction for how I should/n’t be acting in my marriage. Thank you.
Within the church I have heard men are to be primary initiators of intimacy. It has made for many nights where I wish my husband would read my mind. I appreciate the reference to Song of Solomon saying women also can initiate. And the other scripture that mentions it should be agreed upon together if abstaining for a time. Always good reminders, and for me could prevent future disappointment! That ties right into the first point about communication!
Amen. Amen. My thots exactly. We as wives have a tremendously important position. We can make or break a home and there shud be no waiting on the next one to go first. Not if we have a Christ centered life. God gave us a wonderful gift of marriage and beautiful lil souls to fill our home, and so in thankfulness to our Creator, the least we can do, is prepare them a way to Heaven in the end. Thankyou for writing.
Such a balanced and well stated article! We all need this balance!
It is so important to have teaching like this for women, thank you! I never wanted to nag or strong-arm my way into "healthier" marriage rhythms and communication, but it took me a long time to find something that was directed towards me as a wife. I found a lot of help from Laura Doyle's books, and your article is a lovely addition to what I've learned. Women can be a powerful force for good in their marriages!
ETA: I wrote a piece on my experience healing my marriage as a wife here
https://substack.com/@whitneyaguirre/note/p-198776378?utm_source=notes-share-action&r=73t03w
Thank you for the recommendation of Laura Doyle. Just one article is helpful, but more insight strengthens these ideas.
Laura Doyle is not a Christian so you so have to sift through her ideas, but so many of her basic principles are solid and have helped my marriage tremendously. I started with her book The Surrendered Wife.
Thank you!
Hallelujah love it let me build my husband up and do him good all the days of my life
Beautiful post! We need more women supporting women in marriage. Just as much as men need men to be supported, women need this.
We have broken the ancestral continuum of wisdom and knowledge. Our grandparents and great grandparents are not teaching anymore what worked.
We have to rebuild. We have to reenact. We have to start building the ancestral continuum of knowledge and wisdom today.
And this post is a beautiful contribution!
I felt like this was written specifically for me, in this moment. Thank you so much. Has the longer version been posted yet? I just skimmed through your recent posts and didn't think I saw it
This is Titus 2:3-5.
Thank you 💕
That is a high compliment. Thank you.
This is a wonderful reminder of God’s intention for marriage!
Thank you for this real, honest, and Biblically truthful post!
I loved every bit of this article. It speaks truth and is a needed reminder, especially for myself.
This post really hit something in me and I’ve been crying for 15 minutes just reading through this. I feel like I just really needed this loving correction for how I should/n’t be acting in my marriage. Thank you.
Lovely! 💖
Bonus points that you summarized this from your wife's transcript :that's the best thing I've seen (and learnt) today 🥹
Within the church I have heard men are to be primary initiators of intimacy. It has made for many nights where I wish my husband would read my mind. I appreciate the reference to Song of Solomon saying women also can initiate. And the other scripture that mentions it should be agreed upon together if abstaining for a time. Always good reminders, and for me could prevent future disappointment! That ties right into the first point about communication!
This was great! Can’t wait for the full piece
Love this so much! So beautifully written 💛
Amen. Amen. My thots exactly. We as wives have a tremendously important position. We can make or break a home and there shud be no waiting on the next one to go first. Not if we have a Christ centered life. God gave us a wonderful gift of marriage and beautiful lil souls to fill our home, and so in thankfulness to our Creator, the least we can do, is prepare them a way to Heaven in the end. Thankyou for writing.
Powerful article...